Two years ago, I realised I did. And it wasn’t all that satisfying. I could see how I’d long cemented myself into certain circumstances and for all the wrong reasons. Prior to arriving at this awareness, however, I’d invested decades into building a life of stability and security (and therefore predictability). And with the fresh… Click to view

Deep down, we all want to be loved for who we are, completely and unconditionally. So why do our relationships become fraught with bitter transactions and childish competitiveness? Somehow, a partnership that we hoped would see us into old age and beyond disintegrates into a “what’s in it for me?” kind of attitude. Here, we’ll… Click to view

One of my favourite pastimes is paying attention to the wisdom that emerges from other people. I have taken this quote out of its original context, but I’m sure you’ll agree that it applies widely to the human experience. When you break a leg and are forced to rest, you may discover that you heal… Click to view

Sometimes it conjures up feelings of dread, resentment and fear, and other times we may crave it in circumstances where we are belittled and feel patronised. The trouble is, many of us learned to take responsibility for the wrong things at a very young age. When we were unable to respond response-ably. So we get… Click to view

I don’t like to begin anything with “There are two types of people…”, especially when I’m told there are four (and they’re not types but tendencies). According to Gretchen Rubin, there’s not just rule-followers and rule-breakers, which makes sense. She concluded that there are Upholders, Obligers, Questioners and Rebels. You can take the test here:… Click to view

I have been wanting to post this for a while, but I knew I’d first need to be comfortable with the deeper layers of this message.  On the surface, we might all say it’s important and necessary to be ourselves, after all, “everyone else is already taken”, as the saying goes. But how simple is… Click to view

When we get caught up in how things ‘should’ be, we often become blind to the way things actually are. By that, I mean we resist reality as we’re trying to bend it to fit the shape we have in mind for it. And it always wants to ping back again when we’re too exhausted… Click to view

Let’s imagine this is my near-future self, peering back at me from next week, seeing what I’m up to. A bit weird, I know… But after a week of chilling out in the sun with my family (and chopping off the long hair in time for that heatwave), I am ready to get back to… Click to view

An old article I wrote, published in Healthy Life magazine. How many things have you thought or done today because of something you learned when you were five years old?  Is it possible that your earliest experiences are governing how you see the world today?  Absolutely!  We make all sorts of decisions as adults based… Click to view

Have you ever been in a group of people discussing your various phobias? Have you ever been in a group of people discussing your various phobias?  It may go a little like this:  “Ooh, you wouldn’t get me anywhere near a spider/cliff-edge/aeroplane,” etc.  For some, it’s simply a shuddery feeling they get when they think… Click to view